You know whats not talked about?
Either while pregnant, stillborn, or during the first few years.
Its uncomfortable, emotional, & uneasy.
But its a topic that should be talked about.
While i hope & pray that no one ever has to come face to face with it, knowing how to talk to someone who is dealing with the effects of it can make a huge difference.
When you get pregnant, even if you don’t know it, your maternal instincts kick in. You feel a need to protect that bundle of cells until it grows & is born, and that never goes away.
But what happens when you never hear the first cry? Or you wake to a horror scene? Or your child passes?
The need to protect does not go away, it shifts.
You want to protect the memory of them. The memory that even if they where stillborn, they where still born.
Ask us mourning mothers what our child’s name is.
Ask us what our pregnancy was like, our labour, the precious time we did get.
We may cry, but its tears of mourning and joy that someone remembers & wants to know about our precious angels life.
Ask us how we are doing, and when we say fine ask us again.
Ask us about our future fears.
Open the door, because sometimes we feel to weak and insecure to do it ourselves.
listen with an open heart.
When you see us fighting back our tears hug us and don’t let go till we have soaked your shirt.
Give us moments of your time to free ourselves from our pain.
– Your favorite Gemini